The issue of how to choose an alcohol rehab centre is one that faces many individuals each and every day. There are some who are concerned about this for themselves, but more often than not it is family members trying to find a place for someone they love who is struggling with alcohol.
If you are interested in how to choose an alcohol rehab centre for an addicted loved one, we aim to help by explaining the process in the following paragraphs. However, doing so it is important to establish if your family member (or indeed, friend) actually needs help in the first place.
If you are concerned about this person’s drinking, you may be right in thinking that he or she is addicted. Nevertheless, you should be aware that the affected individual is unlikely to be ready to admit the problem exists. If this is the case, you will be unable to force him or her into treatment, no matter how much you believe it is the best thing all around.
Is Your Loved One Addicted to Alcohol?
Alcohol abuse is a widespread problem here in the UK, with millions of adults in England alone abusing alcohol every single day. But recognising the signs of addiction in oneself can be a struggle. Alcohol affects the way in which the brain works, particularly the frontal lobe, which is responsible for good decision making.
Most people who have developed a problem with alcohol will be unable to see things as clearly as their family members or friends as their minds have become clouded by alcohol. Couple this with the fact that their ability to make good decisions has been impaired and you can start to see why so many alcoholics are just not able to recognise a problem in themselves.
Nonetheless, if you have noticed that your loved one seems unable to stop drinking once he or she starts, you could be right about an addiction having developed. There are other signs to look out for though:
- Being unable to remember events from the night before due to being intoxicated
- Being able to handle more alcohol than most
- Lying about how much alcohol he or she drinks
- Being preoccupied with alcohol and talking about how he or she needs it to feel better or relax
- Saying that he or she is going to have one drink but then ends up drinking much more
- Neglecting responsibilities at home or at work due to drinking
- Saying that he or she is going to quit alcohol but never actually does
If this person’s use of alcohol is causing problems for his or her and for other family members, it is highly likely that he or she has developed (or is well on the way to developing) an alcohol addiction.
Finding the Right Rehab Programme
While you cannot force the affected individual to accept help for addiction, you can do your research and find a good rehab programme so that when he or she is ready you will already have the details necessary.
So when thinking about how to choose an alcohol rehab centre, you will need to consider your loved one’s needs and personal situation. Here in the UK, you have the choice of inpatient or outpatient programmes. For the most part, outpatient programmes are provided by the NHS and charities while inpatient programmes are provided by private clinics. Furthermore, although the end-goal is the same for all rehab centres, the way in which programmes are run can vary quite a bit.
Inpatient programmes take place in a private rehab clinic and require the patient to leave home and move into the clinic for the duration of the programme. If you were to choose this type of care for your loved one, he or she would be away from home for between four and six weeks (on average) and will be fully immersed in an intensive recovery programme during this time.
An outpatient programme is different in that it runs alongside daily life and there is no requirement to stay in the facility overnight. As such, there are fewer treatment hours each week and so the programme tends to run for much longer.
Choosing between inpatient and outpatient programmes will help you to narrow down your search for a rehab centre. If you think your loved one would prefer to recover on a day care basis then you can speak to a doctor about your local alcohol treatment service. Alternatively, you can look online at various information databases for details of charity programmes that are available in your area.
If you believe an inpatient programme would be better though, you can search for information online or you can talk to us here at Oasis Recovery Communities for information on the types of programmes available. We can give you more information on what our programmes are like, for example, and how they might help your loved one to get better.
Convincing Your Loved One to Get Help
It is all well and good finding a rehab centre for an affected person but getting him or her to accept the problem exists may be another matter entirely. Most family members are reluctant to even raise the issue of alcoholism with a loved one for fear of how this person is going to react.
With so much stigma attached to addiction, most people are not ready to accept that they have a problem. It is for this reason that so many individuals continue with their addictive behaviour, never being held to account by well-meaning family members worried about upsetting the addict or hurting their feelings.
As hard as it may be, this individual is never going to get help unless you act. At the end of the day, what’s the worst that can happen? The person will get upset or will deny the problem exists. You should be prepared for this though as this is the reaction most people have when it is suggested that they might have an alcohol problem.
You may be lucky and your loved one already knows about the addiction and has been waiting for the opportunity to get help. But more than likely he or she will become defensive and angry. This does not mean you should give up though. If you do this, he or she will likely just continue with the addictive behaviour and will never get the required help.
What About an Intervention?
If you find that the person is refusing to get help or even listen to any suggestions of having a problem, your only solution may be to consider an intervention. An intervention is often the most effective way of encouraging a loved one to get help for addiction.
It is a type of family meeting where the friends and family of the alcoholic come together to discuss the impact that the illness has had on their lives. Each person takes it, in turn, to speak directly to the addict about how the addiction has affected them and will finish with a plea for him or her to get help.
Interventions give family members the chance to present evidence to the addict, and you should know that most them end in success if handled correctly. It is important that the atmosphere is one of support and love and that the intervention is not used to throw blame at the addict or to judge him or her. The aim is to allow the addict to see him or herself through the eyes of other people.
If after you have organised an intervention your loved one accepts that he or she has a problem and is ready for treatment, your research will have come into its own. Having the details of a rehab centre in place at this point will give your loved one little time to change his or her mind about getting help.
For more information about how to choose an alcohol rehab centre or to find out more about interventions and how to stage them, please do not hesitate to contact us here at Oasis Recovery Communities.